16 Common Questions every Virgin wants to ask

I was 15 when I lost my virginity. Umm, surely a very young age for some. But it was one of the best day of my life. I still remember life before sex. Honestly, I had lot of mixed feelings. I was overly excited but terrified at the same time. I was nervous, just like when you are nervous when you go on a date with your crush. All those butterflies in tummy, not knowing how to start a conversation etc and etc. But at the same time I had a lot of questions and I had no idea whom to turn to. When adults say that "It feels good" , we have absolutely no idea.I was a bit embarrassed to voicing out these questions to my "experienced friend". M sure a lot of you reading this blog feels the same, let me assure you that you are at the right place.

Is it awkward being naked in front of someone ?

Well if its your first time its a definitely yes. Its all cause you are nervous, so you feel awkward. But the awkwardness flies away after your 50th time maybe. For me, I wasn't confident being naked in front of my then boyfriend so we had all the curtains closed to make the room darker since it was daytime. That made me a little less nervous since I was assured that he can't see me and that reduced my awkwardness.

Should I wax down there before having sex? Does it make any difference?

No it doesn't really make any difference to how sex feels after waxing. It completely depends on personal taste and from person to person. But if you do decided to use the razor I suggest you use a mirror to prevent cuts. Also, studies suggest that shaving causes micro-tear of the top layer of the skin  which causes bacterial buildup.

Does it bleed a lot?

Now the answer to this question is both "yes" and "no". Some women bleed after having sex for the first time and some don't. And both is normal. Women bleed when the hymen stretches after penetration. The bleeding is very minute and just a few drops of bright red blood.

Is it very painful like what people say?

Yes it does pain the first time. Ever girls first time is less fun and more pain. For me. I was mentally prepared and had heard that sex pains the first so maybe thats why it was not as much painful as I had imagined it to be. Once its inside and hits the perfect point the pain vanishes or reduces. 

Is using fingers necessary before your first time?

I would definitely say yes. It makes sex little less painful more enjoyable for the females. A women's vagina secretes various fluids which act as an lubricant. Fingering before sex can make you aroused and lubricated which can make sex more enjoyable and less rigid.

Day after first sex?

I was completely fine the day after my first time. Most women do suffer from soreness around the vaginal area, but its not at all painful and its a very rare case, so do not panic.

Can aggressive fingering cause the hymen to break?

Yes, fingering can cause the hymen to stretch and break which can led to bleeding as well. Apart from fingering there are couple of activities that can led to the hymen to break such as swimming, cycling.

Is oral sex necessary? I find it a little gross.

Well not everyone likes getting their face near someones private place. But its believed to be an essential act of foreplay which helps both partners to get stimulated.

Are you still a virgin if you have anal sex?

The answer is simple, obviously "NO". There are various type and positions for having sex and anal sex is on of them. 

Does not using a condom increase the amount of pleasure?

The answer to this is yes and no. Condom doesn't really affect the amount of pleasure you have. The pleasure is felt all because of the friction between the vaginal and the penis, and the contraction between the vaginal muscle hence wearing a condom doesn't really affect the pleasure. But avoid wearing latex condoms since it can cause dryness around the vagina and affect the natural lubrications of vagina during sex. But you can opt for non latex condoms that feel almost like skin and not just a rubbery thing. For your health and safety it s good idea to use condom always.

Is there a way to know if a guy is a virgin?

Yes, there is absolutely just one way to find it out, talk to him and get an honest answer, this is the only best bet. There isn't really a way to find out if its the boys first time since boys don't have an equivalent to a hymen and they don't bleed or feel pain when they have sex the first time.

Do girls ejaculate too?

Girls do not ejaculate like men during sex. They secrete vaginal fluid. This fluid is transudate and is not sticky like the semen from men.

Should I spit or swallow?

Well, that is completely your call. There are no rules. It may not suit your taste buds so its alright to spit it out but otherwise go ahead and swallow it, there is no risk involved.

Best position for first time for less pain?

For first time missionary positions hurts the least. It the most basic position with the boy on the top.

When can I have sex without protection?

I would recommend to use protection for safety but having sex without protection a day before your periods is safe.

Is is alright to have sex during periods?

Yes its safe to have sex during periods. It can get a little messy but its safe. Period sex can have a lot of advantage like relief from menstrual cramps. But avoid having sex from 3rd day onwards. 

Are birth control pills safe?

Even though birth control pills are safe, one should limit its intake. Taking birth control pill a lot can cause health problems. I would recommend taking contraceptive pills once a month and stick to the classic condom for health safety.

I hope I was able to clear all your "first time" questions. You can comment down suggestions for my next blog.Thank you.